Monday, July 16, 2007

Cari's Story

*Waves* Hi everyone, my name is Cari, and I am selfish woman. Boy, I just get chills when I think about womens rights, and how I OWN my body. For those of you 'cro-magnos' with few brain cells who are thinking "Well if I own my body, then why Can I not use my body to kill someone?". Well, you cannot kill someone else because they are not your own body, You can however kill YOURSELF. Suicide is not really illegal, only an attempt is, because if you do it CORRECTLY, you die. Get it?

ANYWAYS.. I am a selfish woman, I have had 3 abortions, and would easily have a fourth if my tubal ligation fails. I donate money to charities, and spend time volunteering for many causes, but I am a selfish woman that has had 3 abortions.

My abortions were not done because of lack of education, lack of money, or lack of a caring husband, my abortions were done because I wanted them done. I am quite well off financially, have a great job, and have a wonderful man that I will be spending the rest of my life with. There were no tears after my abortion, after the anesthesia wore off, only a HUGE grin of relief and happiness. I would later have a steak dinner to celebrate, as my morning sickness had not allowed me to eat in a 2 weeks. This was my first abortion, and the two to follow were not much different.

I would also like to add that I am not one of those 'girls' standing in the mirror saying "I'm fat!!", I rather like my size 6 body, and my perky full C cup breasts. I love my body JUST THE WAY IT IS.

If that makes me selfish, then so be it, I am selfish.

Welcome to "Then I Guess I'm Selfish".

Hello.

This blog is more of a social project than a blog. It is meant to be a place where women can share their stories. They can share stories regarding abortion, childbirth, pregnancy, contraception, sex, relationships, children, divorces, domestic violence, the workplace, being a stay-at-home mom, porn, alcohol, sexual orientation, anything.

The idea for this blog came from my heavy involvement in the abortion debate. I saw many labels attached to women who abort. The main one that people, male and female, threw around was "selfish". So I thought to myself, "You know, these people have no idea what these women have actually gone through, yet they seem to think they know their character". So then I figured, why not give women a place to share their abortion stories? I ran it by a couple of my friends and family members, and my good feminist friend Emily, co-blogger at Feminists to the Rescue, came up with the idea to expand it to all things that affect women. I thought this was a great idea, because in all realms women are thought of as selfish if they think of themselves. The example Emily gave was of a woman who hadn't shopped for herself in years because she thought it would be selfish.

What I want to do is just give a platform to the women who have been labeled selfish for one thing or another. What I want this to be is a place where the strangers that think of only themselves, wherever they are, can come and tell their stories. They will be presented without judgment and entirely anonymously. They can be about anything, anyone, and from any time. They don't even have to be in written form. If you want to send me something Postsecret style, a piece of art, a poem, anything. Anything that expresses your story of how you were so selfish is fine.

I hope that, through this blog, we can all see that maybe these strangers aren't so selfish after all. I hope that we can see that maybe these women had a reason for the things they did, even if it WAS just to please themselves. I hope that maybe one day our society will think that women pleasing themselves isn't selfish, but ok and part of human nature.

That is the goal of this blog, social project, whatever you want to call it.

Any submissions can be sent to a special e-mail address set up specifically for this project. All submissions will be overlooked and posted accordingly. All posts shall be anonymous unless requested otherwise. Any material that the author feels should be taken down after posting will be taken down accordingly. Please just let me know.

Please send all submissions to selfishwomen@yahoo.com, and thank you for your participation.